DEAR AUNT– The day I met the man I thought I would spend the rest of my life with, the sexual chemistry was bubbling, but then the devastating news that he was married hit me.
We met on a dating app, I’m 29 and he’s 35. There were instant sparks between us the moment we met.
Sincerely, I had never experienced such rapid and intense feelings for anyone.
He was a kind, compassionate, funny, and romantic partner—everything I could have ever hoped for. We started discussing our future together before I knew it.
He told me he was eager to start a family with me, and we had even begun looking for apartments.
I was living on cloud nine, but it all came crashing down when I received a text message from an unknown number. It read: “Stay away from my husband.”
At first, I thought it was some kind of joke, but then I received photos from his wedding day. I couldn’t believe it. Not only did he have a wife, but two young kids too.
My heart shattered into a million pieces. Everything that he had told me about himself had been a complete lie.
I was so hurt that I blocked his number on the spot, and I haven’t seen him since.
Looking back I think I chose to ignore the warning signs.
Not once did I stay over at his house, and the topic of meeting each other’s families was always avoided.
He would disappear for days, and while I thought it was strange, I somehow convinced myself that he was just busy with work. I think I wanted to see the best in him.
Now I’m heartbroken and wondering what I ever did to deserve this.
How could I be so clueless?
Aunt Replies: You couldn’t possibly have known.
The fact that you chose to see the best in him, despite the fact that there may have been warning signs, says everything about you and your character.
He is the only one at fault in this situation. He was acting in complete confidence.
Consider this a disguised blessing. It’s better to know now than to wait until things might have gotten worse.
I’m aware that this hurts terribly, and it will be difficult in the short run to accept his lies. It will become simpler though once you start to move past him.
You can move on with the aid of my support package, Mend Your Broken Heart.