Failing to move on lands obsessed ex-lover in court

A HARARE woman has secured a protection order against her ex-husband, who has been abusing her.

Appearing before the Harare Civil Court, Gracious Mutangabende levelled many allegations against Tanaka Nyamuzuwe.

“I am being abused by someone I let go due to his behaviour. I want to be free again in my life,” she said.

For months, Mutangabende said she has been subjected to continuous harassment, stalking and emotional torment from Nyamuzuwe, who refused to accept that their marriage was over.

According to her, their separation was supposed to bring peace and closure after years of torture.

The court heard that Mutangabende and Nyamuzuwe were once a loving couple whose marriage, at first, seemed to be on a solid foundation.

Mutangabende told the court that their relationship soured when Nyamuzuwe became increasingly controlling and possessive.

“He would question every call I received, every step I took. I couldn’t visit or refresh my mind without him suspecting something,” she revealed.

Even after the separation, Nyamuzuwe reportedly could not accept that the marriage was over.

Mutangabende described how her ex-husband began following her to work.

“He always finds me. I see him outside my gate. It is as if he is everywhere. He calls at odd hours and sends threatening messages whenever I don’t respond,” she said.

The harassment, she said, has taken a toll on her emotional and psychological well-being.

“I don’t hate him; he is still the father of my children. I just want him to let me live my life. I want peace for myself and for my new partner,” she told the court.

“I live in fear every day. I can’t sleep peacefully. I keep checking the windows and doors. I feel like a prisoner in my own life.”

The court heard that Mutangabende changed her phone number several times, relocated, and even blocked Nyamuzuwe, but he kept coming after her.

In response, Nyamuzuwe openly admitted that he was struggling to move on. His words, however, painted a picture of unhealthy obsession rather than affection.

“I know what I’m doing might seem wrong, but I can’t stand seeing her with another man,” he said.

“I cannot stand to see her being happy with someone else while I suffer alone. I thought we would sit down and make things right once again,” he said tearfully.

Nyamuzuwe further claimed that their bond remained unbroken, insisting that there were times Mutangabende would run away from her current husband to be with him.

He described their interactions as moments of rekindled passion, but Mutangabende denied this, saying Nyamuzuwe was twisting the truth to justify his actions.

She explained that any contact they had was forced or manipulated through intimidation.

“He uses emotional blackmail, saying he will kill himself if I don’t talk to him. I end up speaking to him out of fear, not love,” said Mutangabende.

Nyamuzuwe explained before the court that he will not stop looking for Mutangabende for the sake of his feelings and to see his children.

Magistrate Ashton Dube, who presided over the matter, ruled in favour of Mutangabende.

He advised the two to finalise their divorce in peace, and Nyamuzuwe was strongly advised to move on with his life without interfering with Mutangabende since she has moved on. Herald in court
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A HARARE woman has secured a protection order against her ex-husband, who has been abusing her.

Appearing before the Harare Civil Court, Gracious Mutangabende levelled many allegations against Tanaka Nyamuzuwe.

“I am being abused by someone I let go due to his behaviour. I want to be free again in my life,” she said.

For months, Mutangabende said she has been subjected to continuous harassment, stalking and emotional torment from Nyamuzuwe, who refused to accept that their marriage was over.

According to her, their separation was supposed to bring peace and closure after years of torture.

The court heard that Mutangabende and Nyamuzuwe were once a loving couple whose marriage, at first, seemed to be on a solid foundation.

Mutangabende told the court that their relationship soured when Nyamuzuwe became increasingly controlling and possessive.

“He would question every call I received, every step I took. I couldn’t visit or refresh my mind without him suspecting something,” she revealed.

Even after the separation, Nyamuzuwe reportedly could not accept that the marriage was over.

Mutangabende described how her ex-husband began following her to work.

“He always finds me. I see him outside my gate. It is as if he is everywhere. He calls at odd hours and sends threatening messages whenever I don’t respond,” she said.

The harassment, she said, has taken a toll on her emotional and psychological well-being.

“I don’t hate him; he is still the father of my children. I just want him to let me live my life. I want peace for myself and for my new partner,” she told the court.

“I live in fear every day. I can’t sleep peacefully. I keep checking the windows and doors. I feel like a prisoner in my own life.”

The court heard that Mutangabende changed her phone number several times, relocated, and even blocked Nyamuzuwe, but he kept coming after her.

In response, Nyamuzuwe openly admitted that he was struggling to move on. His words, however, painted a picture of unhealthy obsession rather than affection.

“I know what I’m doing might seem wrong, but I can’t stand seeing her with another man,” he said.

“I cannot stand to see her being happy with someone else while I suffer alone. I thought we would sit down and make things right once again,” he said tearfully.

Nyamuzuwe further claimed that their bond remained unbroken, insisting that there were times Mutangabende would run away from her current husband to be with him.

He described their interactions as moments of rekindled passion, but Mutangabende denied this, saying Nyamuzuwe was twisting the truth to justify his actions.

She explained that any contact they had was forced or manipulated through intimidation.

“He uses emotional blackmail, saying he will kill himself if I don’t talk to him. I end up speaking to him out of fear, not love,” said Mutangabende.

Nyamuzuwe explained before the court that he will not stop looking for Mutangabende for the sake of his feelings and to see his children.

Magistrate Ashton Dube, who presided over the matter, ruled in favour of Mutangabende.

He advised the two to finalise their divorce in peace, and Nyamuzuwe was strongly advised to move on with his life without interfering with Mutangabende since she has moved on. Herald